The Sweetest Year

My son makes every day sweeter! (poop explosions excluded)

Sleep Sense Program–Day 1

I was excited to start, determine to get my full night of sleep back. My baby, now 4 months old, had been waking up every 2-3 hours since birth and mommy was exhausted.

Baby woke up at 09:00AM ready to start his day. I could hear him in the monitor “talking” in his crib and being he’s happy self. Sourire This is what I did:

09:00AM Wake up, feed (~15mins), diaper.

Then it was time to play while mommy ate and showered. Remember that I don’t wake up before him because he keeps me awake all night with his constant feedings so I try to sleep as long as the baby he’s sleeping!

It was then time for the first nap of the day. Here comes trouble…

I decided that my little naptime routine would be:
Go to his room
Change diaper
Put him in his crib
Sing a song (~ 2 mins).
Tell him to go to sleep.

Let’s see how that worked out.

10:30AM Naptime routine.
10:45AM He started crying when he realized I would not pick him up.
10:55AM Not used to all that crying, mommy breaks and feed him. Maybe he’s hungry? It’s been 2 hours since the last feeding and he’s used to eating every 2 hours.
11:00AM He ate for 5 mins but almost felt asleep on me. Realized he just wanted to eat to fall asleep… I put him back in his crib, and he starts crying again. I reassure him, mommy is here, go to sleep, etc.
11:15AM Miracle of all miracle, he sleeps!

So that’s about 30 minutes of crying before falling asleep for nap #1. Mommy had never heard baby cried that much and she’s a bit shaken up by it. But I keep reminding myself why I do this, my baby needs to learn how to fall asleep. HE needs to be able to sleep more than 2 hours at the time.

Time passes, I check on him, still asleep. Imagine my disbelief when I finally hear him wake up at… 1:30PM! That’s a 2 hour nap! Amazing!

We play, go to a quick errand, but are back at home for nap #2.

03:30PM Naptime routine
03:35PM Starts to cry.
04:30PM It’s bit an hour now, he’s still crying and haven’t slept a bit. I had enough, he had enough. I picked him up, feed him and we go to the living room to play a bit.
05:10PM Put him in his crib again. He hadn’t slept for 4 hours now. Way too long for a 4 month baby. I dread nighttime…
05:35PM Still no sleep. Emergency walk around the block in the stroller. He sleeps within 5 mins.
06:00PM Takes him off the car seat to lay him in his crib… Cries! He’s up! It’s way to close to bedtime to try again, so I pick him up and decide to start bedtime routine a bit early.

Woo… Ok, nap #2 wasn’t a success AT ALL. Maybe he slept too long during his first nap? Maybe he starts to realize that things were changing and he was fighting it?

Either way, mommy and baby were very tired and exhausted from all the crying and no sleep. I felt so helpless seeing my baby cry like that. It was awful. I was a bit discouraged, but I tried my best to keep a face and started the bedtime routine.

My bedtime routine
06:20PM Bath
06:30PM Pyjamas, Feed.
06:40PM In his crib, sing a song.
06:45PM Night-night.

So I do that, but the baby is so tired from not sleeping all afternoon and he starts crying in the bath. Poor thing. I cut the bath time shorts and quickly put the pj and started to feed him. He eats for a good 10 minutes and I put him in his crib.

06:40PM Night-night… He starts crying.

At this point, I go out of the room and I starts crying with him. I feel so bad for him. I want to help him, I want this to be easier for him. I know it would be easy to pick him up and let him get to sleep while nursing and I don’t want to do it. All that crying would had been for nothing. So I cry and I hope for the best.

But then, this happens.

He sleeps! He felt asleep by himself! I’m so RELIEVED, I think I starts crying again.

I now wonder what the night would be like.

09:30PM Wake / Cry. Diaper, feed and put him in his crib awake. He goes to sleep… immediately!
12:00AM Wake, diaper, feed. Sleep with no crying!
03:00AM Wake, diaper, feed. Again, no crying!
05:30AM Wake, diaper, feed. No crying!
09:00AM Wake up for Day 2 of the program…

So he still woke up every 2-3 hours throughout the night, but we’re only on day 1 so I don’t give up. Would I have more success with naps on Day 2? What about night feedings?

To be continued…

You can read part one “The night before”.

*Disclaimer: I’m not paid to say any of this. I just did the program and want to share my experience with other parents!

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Sleep Sense Program – The Night Before

My 4 month old baby has been eating every 2-3 hours since he was born. I would hear mothers from my prenatal classes telling how their babies the same age were sleeping for 5, 6, 7, even 8 hours a night and I would shake my head in disbelief. What do they do that I don’t? Or is there something I do that I shouldn’t?

I was confused, but mostly tired. Let me rewrite that, I was TIRED. Waking up every 2 hours is draining. Waking up every 2 hours for 4 months, exhausting. I knew something had to change since my baby was perfectly healthy, even on the chubby side. I also notice that the night time feedings didn’t last over 5 minutes, he was basically just eating to sooth himself to sleep.

Some people told me to spaced out the feedings during the day. So I started doing that. Feeding him every 3 hours. I thought I’d gradually go to every 4 hours. But I sensed that wasn’t the problem. He was still waking up every 2-3 hours at night.

Then a friend told me about the Sleep Sense program. She did it with her 6 month old and he slept through the night on the third day! A full night of sleep… let’s give it a try!

I read the ebook and thought it made perfect… sense. Basically, it’s based on the fact that babies have to learn how to fall asleep by themselves. No nursing to sleep (what I was doing), no rocking to sleep, no singing to sleep, etc. You get the idea.

Since D was born, he ALWAYS felt asleep while nursing. They might have been a few exceptions of daddy rocking him to sleep, but I’d say he felt asleep nursing 98% of the time. No wonder he cried for me at night when he wake up. He didn’t know any other way to fall asleep!

I jotted down the events and time of the night before starting to program. That way, I’d be able to compare with nights after putting into action the Sleep Sense program.

08:00PM Fall asleep while nursing. Sleep in his crib.
10:30PM Cry. Diaper, feed (~6 mins), sleep.
01:00AM Cry. Diaper, feed (~6 mins), sleep.
03:00AM Cry. Diaper, feed (~7 mins), sleep.
06:30AM Cry. Diaper, feed (~6 mins), sleep.
09:00AM Wake up for the day talking in his crib (the best!), feed (~15mins), diaper.

He woke up every 2 to 3 hours throughout the night. The feedings are pretty consistent too, he felt pretty much asleep on me after 5 mins.

The new day arises and I was ready to start implementing the program. I was anxious but so ready to try something to get my nights back.

And so the first day begins… (To be continued)


*Disclaimer: I’m not paid to say any of this. I just did the program and want to share my experience with other parents!

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